So, you think that you’re in chaos now.
I get it.
Let me tell you this straight, you are not alone and there are many of us on the same page. *smile*
The moment where you might say this to yourself…
“I feel empty.”
“I feel helpless.”
“I feel useless.”
And, oh so many things (negative things) you are thinking right now. Your mind is wandering but there’s nowhere go.
Get over it!
Easier said than done, huh?
That should take time.
Maybe, the best thing you can do first is… validate your emotion.
Don’t skip the process and expect things will be better because “every cloud has a silver lining“.
Do you feel sad, angry, happy, afraid, or guilty?
The only person can know the real emotion you have inside is only you.
Your emotion doesn’t last very long. So make this problem-solving simple and straightforward. When you discern that you feel bad today, describe and name it.
Say, it’s okay to feel this way emotionally even if it is painful or disappointing. Once you finally accept and name the emotion that bothers you, now be ready to move on with life despite having that emotion.
Why I am saying all of these in what I wrote above?
Whenever I am asked, where do I get all the strength I “show in the outside”, I always bring them back on the day I found out I had cancer.
That day when I had cancer, I accepted the truth that I had that deadly disease inside me. At any time of this journey with cancer, I will die. So, I asked myself, what’s the best thing I can do for myself?
“I have to claim this experience with cancer and start to move on today.“
Until now, the experience of this exact life-changing words that I said to myself is still intense. I can feel it in my bones!
These exact word where I can define where I gather all my COURAGE today.
Did I say, I show my strength in the outside?
I don’t deny that.
When you see me always strong, part of it I may be faking it, another part of it shows my resilience and the rest I am stoic.
I am completely done in the stage of my life being a whiner. And also, I find posting complains on social media UGLY. It is not my thing. I do share my disappointments or discouragements to few people who can understand and knows me well. I am a social media person but my only goal is to share positive and inspiring stories.
Whenever I am in the midst of chaos, I choose calm than complaining.
There will be a moment in our life that “too much is too much” no matter how great (or worse) it is. When your world is breaking down, let it be. But that doesn’t mean you have to break down, too.
Find your calm.
We have unique ways to cope up. In searching for your calm, you have the answer where to find it. If you want to be alone, so be it. If you think socializing help, go out and meet old and new friends.
Walk around in nature. Take a walk in the park or join a hiking group.
Whatever way that can help you – do it. Don’t let chaos overwhelm you.
“From all bad comes good.”
Restoration (healing) is the opposite of chaos. Every day we survive and heal. Whenever you find yourself today in the midst of a chaotic situation – always choose to be calm first. This is just another lesson you will learn as you keep traveling in this beautiful life.
“Chaos doesn’t end, always choose to be calm.”
Cielo Superticioso, is the author of The Cancer Voice Asia created last August 2017. Cielo focuses on the remarkable benefits of sharing her story and uses her own journey as a means to help you with yours.