I love watching Ted Talks.
There are many reasons why I never get tired of watching this conference online. But let me point up the very significant reasons, why:
- When I learned that I had cancer, I was looking for inspiring and motivating life stories of people who beat cancer and I found most of them in Ted Talk channel on YouTube.
- It entertains me in a way where I can relax and enjoy meaningful speeches.
- It boosts my creativity by watching successful or inspired ideas and solutions from different people that experienced or created them.
The video that I am gonna share and summarize to all of you is a great talk from Louise Evans, a global executive coach and leadership facilitator with major international organizations like Gucci, Whirlpool, Enel, Ferrero, Fiat, Diesel, and Manpower.
The powerful message of “Own Your Behaviors, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success” caught my attention and decided to summary it into 5 snippets.
Here we go!
Let’s start with the first animal she introduced in the video, and hope you the tips or views that will be given below could help you know who you are at the moment.
The Jackals
๐ฆ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ฒ ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ ๐ฏ๐น๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ, ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป, ๐ฝ๐๐ป๐ถ๐๐ต, ๐ด๐ผ๐๐๐ถ๐ฝ – ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฒ๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ ๐ง๐ข ๐๐จ๐๐๐ ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ต๐๐บ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐ ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐๐ฒ ๐ท๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฎ๐น๐.
๐๐๐ง๐’๐จ ๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ง ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐ฉ๐ค๐๐๐ฎ:
1. Go on a mental diet.
2. Spend 1 hour with some people & see if you can be with them without one single judgment going through your mind.
๐ผ๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐๐๐ข๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐จ?
We tend to see what is wrong with other people rather than what is right.
“๐๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ฆ ๐ซ๐ถ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ, ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด ๐ต๐ช๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ฎ.” ๐๐ฐ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ ๐๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ข
The Hedgehog
๐๐๐๐
-๐๐๐๐๐
๐ฆ๐ถ๐บ๐ถ๐น๐ฎ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฑ๐ด๐ฒ๐ต๐ผ๐ด’๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ฟ, ๐๐ฒ ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฐ๐ถ๐น๐ฒ๐๐๐น๐ ๐ท๐๐ฑ๐ด๐ฒ ๐ผ๐๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐น๐๐ฒ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐ ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ, “๐’๐บ ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐ด๐ผ๐ผ๐ฑ ๐ฒ๐ป๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต. ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป’๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐. ๐ก๐ผ๐ฏ๐ผ๐ฑ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ ๐ถ๐ป ๐บ๐ฒ.”
๐๐ โ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ , ๐ค๐ โ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ก๐๐, ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐.
๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐กโ๐ ๐ฃ๐๐๐ก๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐ฆ ๐กโ๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐, “๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐, ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐๐.”
๐ผ๐ก’๐ ๐๐ข๐๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ข๐๐ก ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ก ๐๐ข๐ ๐ค๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐ , ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ก ๐๐ ๐๐๐ข๐๐๐๐.
๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ ๐ข๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐-๐๐๐ข๐๐ก. ๐โ๐๐ก ๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐ ๐ค๐๐กโ ๐๐ข๐ ๐ ๐๐๐-๐๐๐ข๐๐ก? ๐ท๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ข๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐? ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ ๐๐ฆ ๐๐?
๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ง๐๐จ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐๐๐จ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ง๐ค๐ฌ.
“๐๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ด๐ต ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ช๐ฏ๐ต๐ฆ๐ญ๐ญ๐ช๐จ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ ๐ช๐ด ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฃ๐ช๐ญ๐ช๐ต๐บ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ฃ๐ด๐ฆ๐ณ๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ท๐ฆ๐ด ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐ซ๐ถ๐ฅ๐จ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ.” ๐๐ช๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ถ ๐๐ณ๐ช๐ด๐ฉ๐ฏ๐ข๐ฎ๐ถ๐ณ๐ต๐ช
The Meerkats
๐ฆ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐ณ๐๐น, ๐ฎ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ, ๐ผ๐ฏ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐, ๐๐ฒ ๐๐๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ. ๐ช๐ฒ ๐๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐ฏ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ต ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฒ’๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฐ๐ถ๐ผ๐๐.
๐ช๐ฒ ๐๐ฎ๐ถ๐ – ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐น๐.
๐ช๐ฒ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ ๐ฐ๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ผ๐๐.
๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด? ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ ๐๐ฒ๐น๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐บ๐๐๐ฒ๐น๐ณ?
๐๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฏ๐ผ๐ฑ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฟ๐, ๐ถ๐ป๐๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด, “๐๐ฟ๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฝ, ๐๐ถ๐น๐น ๐๐ผ๐?” ๐ช๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ, “๐ ๐๐ผ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ผ๐ป ๐ถ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฟ๐?” ๐๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น ๐ถ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฑ.
We have a choice. Fight or flight? Red or blue? When we make the right choice, we move into successful living.
“๐ ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ธ๐ข๐บ, ๐ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ธ๐ข๐บ. ๐๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ณ๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ต ๐ธ๐ข๐บ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ญ๐บ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ข๐บ, ๐ช๐ต ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ฆ๐น๐ช๐ด๐ต.” ๐๐ช๐ฆ๐ต๐ป๐ค๐ฉ๐ฆ
The Dolphins
๐ฆ๐๐๐-๐๐ช๐๐ฅ๐๐ก๐๐ฆ๐ฆ
๐๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐น๐ฝ๐ต๐ถ๐ป?
๐ฟ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐, ๐ค๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ก๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ , ๐๐๐๐ ๐โ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ป๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ .
๐ฟ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐, ๐ค๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ , ๐๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ก ๐๐ข๐ ๐๐โ๐๐ฃ๐๐๐๐ .
You know who you are. You know what you want. You know where you’re going. You’re not afraid to speak the truth. But also you create your boundaries and look after yourself.
You’re powerful and you never easily give your power away. You grow, become free and come into your full power. You become assertive, but not aggressive.
“๐๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ช๐ด ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐จ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ ๐ธ๐ช๐ด๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฎ.” ๐๐ณ๐ช๐ด๐ต๐ฐ๐ต๐ญ๐ฆ
The Giraffe
๐๐ญ๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐๐๐จ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ฅ๐ฌ๐’๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐๐ฌ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ ๐๐๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐ ๐๐ง๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.
๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ โ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐กโ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ก๐ฆ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐๐๐กโ๐ฆ, ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐, ๐๐๐ ๐ข๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐๐๐.
๐โ๐๐ฆ ๐๐ข๐ก ๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐กโ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ข๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐. ๐โ๐๐ฆ โ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐.
๐ฟ๐๐๐ ๐๐ก ๐๐กโ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐ , ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐กโ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ , ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ ๐๐ก๐ฆ ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ก.
The best question to ask yourself in this kind of behavior is, “What is important for him or her?” It helps you to stay connected with others whatever happens.
“๐ ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฏ’๐ต ๐ญ๐ช๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ. ๐ ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ด๐ต ๐จ๐ฆ๐ต ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฌ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ฉ๐ช๐ฎ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ต๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ.” ๐๐ฃ๐ณ๐ข๐ฉ๐ข๐ฎ ๐๐ช๐ฏ๐ค๐ฐ๐ญ๐ฏ
“Everything can be taken from man but one thing. The last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.” Viktor Frankl
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