So, you think that you’re in chaos now.
I get it.
Let me tell you this straight, you are not alone and there are many of us on the same page. *smile*
The moment where you might say this to yourself…
“I feel empty.”
“I feel helpless.”
“I feel useless.”
And, oh so many things (negative things) you are thinking right now. Your mind is wandering but there’s nowhere go.
Get over it!
Easier said than done, huh?
That should take time.
Maybe, the best thing you can do first is… validate your emotion.
Don’t skip the process and expect things will be better because “every cloud has a silver lining“.
Do you feel sad, angry, happy, afraid, or guilty?
Name it!
The only person can know the real emotion you have inside is only you.
Your emotion doesn’t last very long. So make this problem-solving simple and straightforward. When you discern that you feel bad today, describe and name it.
What’s next?
Admit it!
Say, it’s okay to feel this way emotionally even if it is painful or disappointing. Once you finally accept and name the emotion that bothers you, now be ready to move on with life despite having that emotion.
Why I am saying all of these in what I wrote above?
Whenever I am asked, where do I get all the strength I “show in the outside”, I always bring them back on the day I found out I had cancer.
That day when I had cancer, I accepted the truth that I had that deadly disease inside me. At any time of this journey with cancer, I will die. So, I asked myself, what’s the best thing I can do for myself?
“I have to claim this experience with cancer and start to move on today.“
Until now, the experience of this exact life-changing words that I said to myself is still intense. I can feel it in my bones!
These exact word where I can define where I gather all my COURAGE today.
Did I say, I show my strength in the outside?
I don’t deny that.
When you see me always strong, part of it I may be faking it, another part of it shows my resilience and the rest I am stoic.
Why?
I am completely done in the stage of my life being a whiner. And also, I find posting complains on social media UGLY. It is not my thing. I do share my disappointments or discouragements to few people who can understand and knows me well. I am a social media person but my only goal is to share positive and inspiring stories.
Whenever I am in the midst of chaos, I choose calm than complaining.
There will be a moment in our life that “too much is too much” no matter how great (or worse) it is. When your world is breaking down, let it be. But that doesn’t mean you have to break down, too.
Find your calm.
We have unique ways to cope up. In searching for your calm, you have the answer where to find it. If you want to be alone, so be it. If you think socializing help, go out and meet old and new friends.
Walk around in nature. Take a walk in the park or join a hiking group.
Whatever way that can help you – do it. Don’t let chaos overwhelm you.
“From all bad comes good.”
Restoration (healing) is the opposite of chaos. Every day we survive and heal. Whenever you find yourself today in the midst of a chaotic situation – always choose to be calm first. This is just another lesson you will learn as you keep traveling in this beautiful life.
“Chaos doesn’t end, always choose to be calm.”
My name is Cielo, the author of “The Cancer Voice Asia”, a blog that aims to support and inspire anyone who is facing cancer. I know how it feels to be diagnosed with a rare and aggressive type of cancer, Leiomyosarcoma, at the age of 29. I know the challenges, the fears, the hopes, and the joys of living with cancer. I want to share my story with you and connect you with others who understand what you are going through. Together, we can empower ourselves and fight against the disease. Join me on this platform and let’s make our healing journey a meaningful one.
